Choices impact every aspect of our communication with others and one of the key areas we can make a choice to change, is in communication that leads to arguments or confrontation. When a conversation starts to head towards an argument, you can make a choice – will I fight fire with fire or will I fight fire with water?
It takes at least two people to have an argument. That means both of you have to choose to create it; both of you have to take part or there will be no argument. When you choose to make it an argument, you attempt to fight fire with fire. “I am standing up to them” or “he started it” are just excuses. You had to engage to make it an argument, you had to make a choice to take a conversation down that route.
So, today, when someone is “looking for an argument” choose to let them look elsewhere. Make a choice to drown the flames, not fan them.
Dinah 🙂
Excellent post and couldn’t agree more… Now to remember those words when situations become enflamed!
Hi Tony,
Thank you for your comment. I have a little mantra for heated situations “Choose not to Loose it!” said a few times in my head, I can make the choice to de-fuse the situation.
Dinah x