When someone dies, we often find it difficult to know what to say to the people they've left behind. Strangely, rather than overcoming this sense of embarrassment, we often avoid having a conversation at a time when, by just being there to listen, we could make such a huge difference.
We've all heard ourselves, and others, say it: "Was it something I said?" often in total confusion, as we wrack our minds to work out what it was we said that could have resulted in the reaction we see in another. I wonder though, how often it is what has gone UN-said that really causes [...]