You are allowed to be you

I loved Toyah as a teenager; I still do.  Her hair (of course) and make-up, but also her power, her self-confidence, her rebel-quality.  I looked up to her and emulated her style with more and more outrageous hair-cuts and colours that resulted in the inevitable suspensions from my posh school for young-ladies.  Result! Toyah showedContinue reading “You are allowed to be you”

Choose a new string for your bow

Over the weekend, I went to a local club and tried my first attempt with a bow and arrow.  I’ve always loved the idea of archery, a sport strongly connected with the earth and our heritage.  It’s always struck me as romantic in some way.  I’ve also always held the belief that I would neverContinue reading “Choose a new string for your bow”

Making mood choices

“Don’t be so moody” a much-repeated comment from mothers of teenagers, partners (of both sexes) and many long-suffering friends.  Yet is strikes me that this is a strange remark;  we are constantly moody.  All our actions (or lack of action) can be influenced by our mood.  Every conversation or interaction will be impacted by ourContinue reading “Making mood choices”

It’s not always easy to choose

This morning on Twitter, I was reminded by someone that it’s not always easy to choose your mood; that for some, every day is a challenge and “managing a smile” is about their limit.  I can empathise with this position, with this choice.  I remember times when I’ve felt that everything was simply too muchContinue reading “It’s not always easy to choose”

Choose to be enough

Choosing to accept that YOU are enough is one of the most liberating, exciting and powerful choices you will ever make.  It took me almost 40 years to make this choice and when I did, I had a sense of calm I had never experienced before.  The time and energy I’d been spending on livingContinue reading “Choose to be enough”

Choose positive thinking

  Choosing to think positively is not going to make all your problems disappear overnight; however, it is going to make a huge, positive difference to how you deal with, challenge, accept or fight these challenges and, as a result and with persistence, a more positive outcome.  Positive thinking is a choice and it canContinue reading “Choose positive thinking”

It’s my choice

I have a real thing about people’s language when it comes to choice.  I’m tired of hearing “I didn’t have a choice” or “It was the only choice I had” used as an excuse, a justification for decisions taken without responsibility or courage.  The truth is, there are exceptionally few situations where we have noContinue reading “It’s my choice”

Making new choices

  My husband John and I have been married for a quarter of a century next April – and this July we celebrated 29 years since our first date; and yes, the time has flown by.  We have grown-up and taken an amazing adventure together (we first met when I was 16 and John 17)Continue reading “Making new choices”

Choose positive language

Create a positive message not a melodrama As I looked at my Facebook timeline today, I was so disappointed to see how many people are posting messages with negative rather than positive language. They include a commonly used sentence on these posts now “I know 99% of you won’t re-post this….”  What a strange choiceContinue reading “Choose positive language”

Choose not to “Try”

  “I’ll try” – what do you really mean when you say these words?  “I probably won’t”   or “I’m sure I won’t be able to”?  That’s a choice.  A choice you make regularly and without thinking.  “I’ll try to stick to it this time” becomes your mantra and your choice to accept failure, beforeContinue reading “Choose not to “Try””