Choose what you see

Starting each day by looking in the mirror as we get ready to face the world, can be a negative experience – if we choose to let it be.  We can choose to look at the bits that frustrate or depress us or we can choose to see what others see.  When our friends or partners tell us we are looking fabulous, they are being sincere, we just choose not to believe them.

Today I choose to wear a bright red lipstick – very racy!  I have never worn it before, despite buying it almost six months ago.  My husband has often told me he would love me to wear red lippy, that it would look stunning on me.  Today, I choose to agree with him.  Today I choose to see what he sees – and to be honest, I rather like it!

Today, choosing to see what he sees, I find a vivacious, confident woman looking back at me in the mirror.  A woman who is proud of her years and celebrating her lines and her curves.  Today I choose to see what John sees and I feel great.

What will you choose to see today?

Have a wonderful Friday,

Dinah 🙂

Challenge your choices

“I made my choice and I’m sticking with it” a sentiment that seems determined and brave; however, there are times when sticking with a choice we have made does not serve us.  Taking a review and challenging the choices we have made can lead to new, exciting possibilities.

It can be tempting to think of this as giving up, or quitting.  That is not the type of review I am talking about!  When we make a choice and it is not serving us, we are not quitting – far from it; we are making a new and brave choice to look at how to change something.  Change that will be positive for ourselves.

Last year I made a choice to deliver a series of workshops with a collaboration partner.  I loved delivering training with another person, so rewarding.  And so tiring!  I had not considered the physical impact that a whole day on my feet really has on me.  So at the end of last year, I challenged this choice.  I made a new choice, to stop presenting workshops.  A choice to be kinder to me.  A good choice.

Challenge your choices and see how well they are serving you.  Start with that choice you made to work over this long weekend – are you sure that choice is the right one?

Have a fabulous day

Dinah 🙂

Choose to do it!

How often do you hear people talking about great ideas and then talking some more and some more…. Making a choice to take action is what creates results and turns great ideas into reality.  Making choices can be the stumbling block that prevents so many great ideas from reaching their potential.  So often they are prevented by our fears of failure or even fears of success.  Making choices to action ideas requires determination, commitment and being a bit brave!

This week, a group of five boys – Mattie, Ethan, Reuben, Jacob and Joel ( and their Mum, Ruth) – made a choice about a great idea they’d had.  They love to bake with their mum and also to forrage for wild ingredients and grow their own too.  They had a great idea, to start a blog where they could share their experiences and love of cooking and food with other kids of their age.  A blog by kids, for kids.  And it’s brilliant!  They launched yesterday and you can see their fab recipe for Granola here.

They made a choice, a choice to take that idea and do something about it.  A brave and public choice that required effort and commitment.  I find it inspirational.  Five Boys Bake is a great idea and deserves our support because they made a choice and took action.  Congratulations on a great blog boys, I love your choice.

Have a wonderful day

Dinah :o)

Choose a positive “NO”

Saying “no” to people can feel uncomfortable – or even impossible, largely because we see it as a negative response.  We can choose to see it as a positive when we look at it from a different perspective.  It is a choice and one we can make more easily when we understand that a “no” can be a “yes” for  ourselves.

What really prevents you from saying “no” when you want to?  What makes you take the choice to say “yes” when you know it is the wrong answer for YOU?  You do!  You make the choice every time, fulled by the voice in your head telling you “they won’t be my friend anymore if I say no” or “they won’t want me on the team if I say no”.  So how’s it going for you – listening to that little voice and taking on more and more?  Serving you well? I thought not.

So today, make a choice to say  “no” to something and “yes” to yourself.  Choose to be brave and honest and stand up for the most importat person in your world – YOU.  It’s a strange feeling, and one you will grow to enjoy if you make the choice.

Have a fantastic day

Dinah :o)

Choose a magnificent Monday

Each new week brings opportunity and new choices. How we approach the choices and challenges depends on our attitude and we can choose this too. This week, despite a challenge with my health, I am choosing a magnificent Monday.

There will always be things in our lives that are less than perfect, things that challenge us and stretch our limits. We can choose to focus on them, or we can choose to focus on the aspects of our lives that are wonderful. It may feel like we have to search hard to find them sometimes – but if we choose to make them our focus, they are there.

Today, make this a magnificent Monday and choose to focus on your positives; you’ll soon find you are better equipped to deal with the challenges too.

Dinah 🙂

Choose no limits

Another Sunday video for you today about choices and how we can choose to live a life of no limits, whatever others tell us they might be.  I watch this when I have a day where walking is just that bit too painful, or when I am overwhelmed by the effort required.  It soon helps me choose a different way of looking at things.  I hope you find it as inspirational as I do. The choice of music is wonderful too. Choose to be the extra mile for someone this Sunday.

Choose friendship

We take many things in our lives for granted, from the roof over our heads to the weekends relaxing with friends and loved ones.  Choosing to give time to our friendships can feel self-indulgent.  All too often I hear people say “I haven’t seen them for ages – life just gets in the way.”  It only gets in the way if we choose to let it.  Giving time to our friends, to listen and to share, to laugh together – and cry together – is a choice worth making.

Taking a friendship for granted is the fastest way to lose a friend.  If we choose to let our “busy lives” get in the way, then we should stop and ask why?  Are we perhaps not really interested in the relationship?  Do we not appreciate the value that our friends add to our lives?  Or are we simply choosing to focus so much on an area of our lives, we forget the strength we get from – and give to – our friends.

So, this Saturday, no matter how many jobs there are on that list, give some of your time to a friend.  A call to say “hello”, a text to say “I’m thinking of you” or even a tweet to say “you’re on my mind” can make someone’s day.  This Saturday, choose friendship.

Have a wonderful day

Dinah 🙂

Choosing Accountability

Making choices and sticking to them takes commitment.  It is so easy to doubt ourselves and talk ourselves out of choices as we listen to those old voices inside, telling us we can’t or we won’t.  A great way to stick to our choices is to get accountability for them.  An accountability buddy that we share our plans with who will encourage us and keep us accountable when we wobble on our journey of choice.

When I am committed to a choice I make, the first thing I do is tell someone about it.  By sharing my choices I am putting accountability in place that I believe gives me an extra drive to succeed.  It also provides support as we get used to our choices; there can be times when we doubt our choices, or ourselves, and having that accountability buddy means  we can share our fears and re-establish our commitment.

Make yourself accountable with someone who is likely to support and encourage you – the choice of your accountability buddy is crucial; there is little point in asking someone to support you who shows a lack of commitment to their own choices.  Set yourself up to succeed and ask someone you respect for their ability to see things through.

Enjoy your weekend, and I’d love to know how you are choosing to be accountable.

Dinah 🙂

What if my choice impacts you?

Sometimes the choices we make will appear to impact other people in a way we are uncomfortable with; indeed our fear of upsetting them can prevent us from making the choice at all.  When we remember that it is their choice how it impacts them, we give ourselves permission to make choices without that burden.

I wrote a blog for Virgin last week about a choice I recently made to fire a client – a brave decision and one that had an impact on the client.  Yesterday I made a choice to say “no” to working with a new client; again a decision that has an impact on them.  I made these choices because they were good for me and my business and my credibility.  In the early days of my business, I would have allowed my fear to impact my choice and probably taken on two clients that were going to prove a bad choice for my business – and probably my health!

Making a choice for ourselves is not about being selfish or irresponsible.  Clearly, there are times when choices must be taken for the good of many not just ourselves.  Be real though – are you using other people as an excuse not to make a choice?  Isn’t it time to change that?

The good news is, it’s up to you!  Choose to change that excuse, to embrace your choice and be brave with it.

Have a wonderful day

Dinah 🙂

Your focus – your choice

Is your glass half full or half empty? Mine is overflowing! I choose to focus on the positive aspects of my life and this allows me to have a positive outlook. I am not in denial about the challenges I face, I just make a choice that they will not be my focus.

Am I making that sound too simple? Well, it is simple; making choices can be simple – it’s sticking to them that gets complicated! Letting our focus wander to the negatives has become a habit and one we can choose to change, provided we set ourselves up to succeed. Leaving a negative habit behind us will bring great rewards, so to start seeing them we should put things in place to make it simple to stick with our choice.

Here are three of the ways I reinforce my positive focus each day:

– start the morning with a smile! When you wake up and stretch your body, stretch your smile too. Smiling is contagious and habit forming.

-remind yourself of the positives. Take five minutes, each time you grab a cuppa in your day, to remind yourself of something fabulous in your life. Yes, there is always something, just choose to see it!

– make someone else’s day. Each day, make a point to putting a smile on someone’s face.

Your focus is your choice; what will you focus on today?

Have a wonder-filled Wednesday

 

Dinah 🙂